A little bit about my friends and graduation
So many things happened this past weekend (Birthday,Mother's day and Graduation on the same day, mind you) and I think I would gather a lot of haters from posting 10,000 pictures on Facebook. So I decided to create this blog post (and include pictures in them) :)
Before we get to the pictures, I want to tell you about the friendship lessons that I learned in Ohio State. When I first came to Ohio State, I was so eager to meet new people and make new friends. I used to be the one who always asked people out and I loved volunteering to organize events.
I was truly a naive freshman (not that I would expect otherwise). I had expectations for my friends and I had a standard of what a "true friend" meant. You know, the kind of friends that you see in the TV Show "Friends" or "How I Met Your Mother" - friends that listen to all your problems, friends that always have your back and friends that take you as you are. Unsurprisingly, those expectations were oftentimes not fulfilled. Not because I had bad friends, but because we were in college, for pete's sake, and college is a time when people do stupid things and are only sober for 3 out of 7 days of the week.
Somewhere along the line, after facing disappointments from unmet expectations, I lost that sense of excitement. I stopped asking people out, I started closing myself from new friends and I desperately wanted to leave to a different city. I thought that I might find "better friends" (whatever that means...) somewhere else. Long story short, I have come a long way since then and have learned the hard way about the jungle of college through the guidance of some of the older and wiser people around me. The most important thing that I learned is that when you open yourself up for people, you open yourself up to the possibility of being disappointed. BUT, even then,even when you know that your friends might bail out on their promises, even when you know that your friends might not always include you in their plans, even when you know that your friends might not have your back during rough times, the reward of being loved is SO worth the risk of being hurt while engaging in a community. (Credit for these wise words goes to Pastor Chad Fisher from Rock City Church)
My hope for you who still have the opportunity to continue your collegiate life is so that you will never lose your faith in your friends no matter how annoying, drunk, lazy or incompetent they can be. I hope you see your friendships through till the end. I just recently finished all 9 seasons of "How I met Your Mother" and I noted down a couple of quotes about friendship that really struck me:
"If you keep giving up on people so quickly, you're gonna miss out on something great." - Robin Scherbatsky
"There are a lot of little reasons why the big things in our lives happen". Ted Mosby, Season 4
This following quote is my favorite though:
"That's how it goes kids. The friends, neighbors, drinking buddies, and partners in crime you love so much when you're young, as the years go by, you just lose touch. You will be shocked, kids, when you discover how easy it is in life to part ways with people forever. That's why, when you find someone you want to keep around, you do something about it." - Ted Mosby
I have made a conscious decision to call these people my friends. I cherish their presence in my life and I will continue to make an effort to keep them in it. Thank you Ohio State for teaching me such an important life lesson. You will always have a special place in my heart.